Feedback Thoughts
Feedback is one of the crucial parts of life. From an extremely young age we are introduced to feedback. So why are the majority of us so bad at receiving it. As important as I know feedback is, I'm happy to get it... once its positive. I don't know what it is about negative feedback that makes us think we are absolutely worthless. It is essentially something to help better ourselves. I have recently been introduced to the fixed mindset vs. growth mindset and I feel this links in with feedback in general. If from a young age we are around feedback (both good and bad) that helps us to grow as a person we would be more accustomed to taking all types of feedback as adults. This fixed mindset that a lot of us were brought up with of negative feedback equals you are terrible at your job will result in nothing but panic attacks and sleepless nights. We need to change our views on feedback and the meaning of negative feedback actually being a positive thing. Negative feedback does not equal rejection and self doubt.
Reading the article by Guy Winch 'Why rejection hurts so much - and what to do about it' was pretty eye opening. I felt like he singled me out and said this article is about you and you alone! IT really did resonate with me that much. It was really interesting to hear about studies being done and the same part of the brain reacted to physical pain as it did to when someone received rejection in some way whether it be social media or in a relationship etc... This rejection leading to self criticism trope, that I think we all can be guilty from time to time has been around for years and years. It's in our nature but what I liked about this article was the reinforcement of little things to kick that bad habit of 'Im not good enough' into a mindset of actually 'I am great in this part of my life' and 'I am a great friend/worker'. Rejection doesn't have to be a personal attack and sometimes its just not the right fit at the time in your life. Rewiring our mindset and reviving our self worth with little tasks after this rejection is key. Winch explains applying this "emotional first aid in this way will boost your self-esteem, reduce your emotional pain and build your confidence" and this will simply help us to just move on.
Being new to the growth mindset approach to life I wanted to read more about it so for the second article I looked at 'A fixed mindset could be holding you back - here's how to change it'. Im finding the new information on this topic really interesting. I have grown up and been conditioned to have a fixed mindset. I feel this has resulted in me finding it hard to take negative feedback and if something doesn't turn out how I wanted for an assignment it really is the end of the world. I was happy to read in this article that a growth mindset can be developed when you feel you have a fixed mindset. I am someone who wants to learn the new technology and wants to develop with the changing times but thats not to say that I don't still take a lot of the traits of having a fixed mindset with me in my day to day tasks. Learning from my mistakes and moving on makes a lot more sense rather than dwelling on them and becoming unmotivated and self deprecating. Seeing even doctors can learn from a growth mindset. This profession is not one you can make mistakes with as it costs lives but using a growth mindset means to just look at the issues and he problems that arise in a different way. You can be 'motivated by improvement' which is the ultimate growth mindset approach.
Im really enjoying my dive into the new way of thinking. It is hard to erase 25 years of thinking and attitude but I think little steps will make the difference. As I learn more and read more I feel my understanding and mindset is changing which I am appreciating and looking forward to seeing the results.
Bibliography:
Why rejection hurts so much — and what to do about it by Guy Winch
A fixed mindset could be holding you back — here's how to change it by Anna Kelsey-Sugg and Ann Arnold
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